Grooming all you dont want to know.

in the initial stages of grooming, the perpetrator behaves seductively and deceptively. Buying her things she could never afford driving her round in flash cars. This can start as young as 9 years old, at first the girl beleives that the perpetrator is her boyfriend. Some even work in groups, this process begins with a young girl being targeted and befriended by a young boy of her own age usually a classmate or a neighbour. Then the young boy will introduce her to older men posing as older brothers or cousins.

The second phase, the "friendly" association turns into exchange of favours. The perpetrator causes infatuation of love in the girls mind and seeks sexual favours for himself and for others, she is expected to do this as proof of her love or as a way of returning fovours bestowed on her.

She is told she owes him money for the cigaretes or the booze he supplied her with. She is then told that to pay back the debt she is to allow them to have sex with her. Effectively being raped and gang raped, she starts going out at odd hours and goes missing for days at a time as she is trafficked out to nearby towns and cities and all the time undermining her self esteem and ruining her family stability.

The perpetrator attemps to completely sever the young girl from her family even going so far as to make the young girl falsely accuse her brother or father of sexual abuse at home as a means of breaking the whole family apart. The knowledge that their daughter was or is being sexualy exploited often rouses shock and denial from parents. The idea that their precious daughter is being or has been abused by someone and they have not been able to protect them can be very traumatic for the parents they often feel guilty,distresed,upset,confused,scared,embarressed and helpless.

Parents may initialy feel their daughter chose this lifestyle, and blame or resent their child for putting them through scrutiny from agencies such as social services and police. Not uderstanding that grooming and coersion are a form of brainwashing by someone exerting power and control over another. Information and knowledge of grooming tactics and the impact of grooming on children allows parents to channel their energy into strenghening the relationships among the family.

The most obvious cost that families pay is loss of life Natalie Pearman(16), Fiona Ivison(17), Carley Bateman(17), Tania Nicol(19), Samantha Bennet(19), Mary-Anne Meneghan(15), an endless list of young women whose lives met a violent end as a consequence of sexual exploitation by these perpetrators how can they persuade girls they`re their boyfriends and then make them sell their bodies for drugs usualy, they steal these peoples lives for greed.